Peerly Human: Another Week, Still Here - Tuesdays 8-9:30 PM EST (Group Format)

Hi there! Glad you found us! Our group call format is in transition. If you need peer support, want to offer it, or want to learn more about either or both, please contact us:

peerlyhuman@gmail.com
call Sarah at 802-279-3876.

Our basic approach to people helping people ('peer support') is summarized below, as well as a flavor of what we've offered in the past:

Another Week, Still Here

Welcome to Another Week, Still Here. We meet Tuesdays 8-9:30 PM Eastern Standard Time.

We are a community that shares our lived experience of seriously contemplating suicide. For many of us, modern society has created a world that we do not want to live in. Many of us are in pain and can't imagine this ever changing. We sincerely ask if life is worth the effort.

Others of us have had such experiences in the past. We come here to be in the company of others who 'get it.' We may enjoy sharing experiences, learning from others, and being inspired by their courage on the journey.

Not About Suicide Prevention

We are not a suicide prevention group. We used to call ourselves 'Alternatives to Suicide.' Then we realized that people might get the wrong idea.

Our goal is not to convince each other to stay alive no matter what. People of conscience make difficult decisions of life and death every day in this world. That is a fact.

Our aims are much humbler. Our primary purpose is to support each other to listen to the Truth of our own conscience - whatever that is. No one should face difficult decisions of life and death alone. This is a space to have a respectful conversation about serious issues that seriously matter.

We are human beings, not gods. We cannot see into anyone else's heart or mind except our own. Beyond that, we can honestly share our feelings and experiences, listen deeply to experience of others, and make principled decisions about our own lives.

Shared Values

1. No Pros, No cops, No 911. Above all else, we agree not to police each other, therapize each other, or take over each other's emergencies.

2. Share from the heart & make space for others to do the same

3. Hold each other’s truths with dignity, respect, interest and willingness to learn

4. Maintain a heavy dose of humility for the things we don't yet know or understand

5. Respect each person’s conscience and right to decide for themselves

6. Create a community, rather than a support group

7. Change the world in ways that make it liveable for all human beings

8. Support each other’s human rights, including the right to be left alone

Helpful hints

Getting Started: Calls are member-run. Anyone can use this format and get the call started.
Share the Work: Each of these hints is a role that can be filled by someone on the call. This is a way to share power and responsibility and gives everyone a chance to help out. We all learn together about how the call works. We each play an active role in creating a call culture that we enjoy and believe in.
Warm Welcome: At the beginning, we welcome each other to the call. There's a bell that (usually) lets you know when someone joins or leaves. You can also see this on the internet console: uberconference.com/peerlyhuman
Introductions: We usually go around and do introductions near the beginning of the call. We ask everyone to say a name (even a fake one) - but beyond that it's fine if you just want to listen. Alternatively, you can type a name on the console if you are joining us online.
New Arrivals: If there's an ongoing conversation, keep a look out for new arrivals. Say 'hello,' and invite them to introduce themselves and join in as they feel ready.
Create Community: It's a community - not a support group or therapy session. Share the air. Hold space for each other. Invite participation, topics, check-ins, feedback and reflection.
Respect Diversity: Speak for yourself, not for others. Tell your story, listen to others. Work on your own issues, not on other people. Share your own struggles instead of judging or giving advice.
Build a Conversation: Be kind to your audience. Conversations are interesting when a variety of people talk and no one person talks too often or for too long. Generally, 3-5 minutes is a good time to shift to a new speaker. If you're the quiet type, this is your time to step in. If you're more talkative, remember that you can always come back and share more after others have been heard.
Broaden Participation: Be mindful of 'two-somes.' It can be easy to forget that there are several people on the call. If you find yourself saying something after every person talks, it might be time to step back or ask others to join in.
Ask for Help: Sometimes strong feelings come up on these calls. Not everyone agrees with each other. It's ok to ask the group for space or help to work it out. It's also fine to hang up if you need to. But, we hope you'll tell us sooner than later what's going on. You're probably picking up on something that isn't working for others too. (It's not just you 😏)
Make Time for Feedback: Its great to make time for feedback about 10 minutes before the end of the call. It helps to know what worked for you. Just as important, it helps to know what didn't work so well for you - and how you'd like the group to help you get what you need next time. This is how we learn.
End the Call - sort of: We end the call at the stated time. However, people are welcome to keep talking after the call for as long as they like - or until there's another scheduled call.